2- Sometimes you have to realize its not about you…cos it really isn’t.
3- People come your way for a reason, and each of them sticks around for a predetermined season. Appreciating the value of the people you meet – both good and bad – helps you grow as an individual.
4- If you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything.
5- Sometimes you need to take a step back from it all and concentrate on the lil’ girl (or boy) within.
6- The fact that you treat people in a certain manner doesn’t mean they will reciprocate. Sometimes you’ll be pleasantly surprised or horribly disappointed.
7- There comes a point in time when you will feel like you cannot possibly handle everything going on. At this point take things a day at a time and call up the troops (God, family, friends).
8- You might want to do so much or help so many. But you will be utterly inept at it if you do so to the point where you can’t even help yourself.
9- It’s okay to cry and say “I don’t know” or “can you help me out?”
10- If you’re aiming for something that consistently eludes you, you need to know when to let go or give it some time. That said, do not confuse letting go with giving up.
11- You will have to make some decisions taking other people into consideration.
12- From time to time you might make decisions that others don’t approve of. If you believe you’re being true to yourself, pray about it and leave the rest to God.
13- Nothing or nobody has all the answers. It’s all about how you perceive it to be.
14- You will learn patience. And when you get caught up in the swirl of events, you will learn it again.
15- No matter how cliche it sounds, it usually does work out in the end.
16- You shouldn’t think the world owes you anything; cos in reality, it doesn’t.
17- If others can achieve their dreams, so can you.
18- Sometimes it takes a miracle to change the course of events.
19- Love might hurt, but it reminds you that you are still alive.
20- In trying to avoid something, you might end up running straight into it. Have some flexibility.
21- It’s important to venture into new ground, try something novel, listen to a different genre of music…it might end up being the best you’ve ever encountered.
22- People will talk regardless of what you do. Quit worrying about them and pursue what you believe in.
23- Life goes on. With or without you.
24- You don’t necessarily need a degree to become a painter, actress, dancer, author, chef etc. Take up the activity and the activity becomes you.
25- In order to make a change in your community or the world, you have to start with yourself.
26 – You lose nothing of real value by helping another person out, but you certainly gain a lot.
27 – Everyone has a story. And regardless of how different they might be from you, you might learn something new if you just listen.
28 – You might not always get what you want, but it’s far more important to get what you need.
29 – The most pleasant surprises come in simple packages.
30 – The question is not whether you have a choice; it’s whether you’re willing to take the necessary risks.
31 – Every ‘failure’ or ‘defeat’ is a realization of what works…and what does not.
32 – There comes a time in a girl’s life, when she has to remind her “mood swings” who’s boss.
33 – If at the end of the day, you still have someone to call family or friend, you are blessed.
34 – God will never give you more than you can handle. And yes, He believes in you that much, so why worry?
35 – It’s okay to talk to yourself once in a while. If you can’t stand conversations with yourself, who else will?
36 – There’s no better time to make a change than in the present moment.
37- How you deal with your circumstances says a lot about your character.
38 – Holding grudges does no good except spending energy and time better used elsewhere.
39 – Sunrise and sunset have great significance to life. One teaches hope while the other teaches forgiveness.
40 – Regardless of how many stumbling blocks you encounter, if you still believe in yourself at the end of it all, the possibilities remain endless.
Jemila Abdulai is the creative director, editor and founder of the award-winning website Circumspecte.com. A media and international development professional and economist by training, she combines her business, communications and project management expertise with her strong passion for Africa. Besides writing and reading, she enjoys travel, global cuisine, movies, and good design.